A month into the kids senior year and we are still adjusting. It is probably more difficult for me than for him. He has a job that he has had for about 2 months then got his drivers license about 6 weeks ago and finally started school a month ago. I feel like I have whiplash from all the changes over the past two months.
The kids class schedule is down to only 4 classes, one on A days and 3 on B days. He is working 4 days a week and driving himself everywhere. Its so odd for me to not be the one to do drop off or pick up duty, its strange to not be the one who controls when and where we go some where. It's strange for him to call me in the afternoon bc he is home from school at 1130 on a regular day.
Where did the time go? When did he grow up? How do I stop this? Now the realistic questions that have been plaguing me for 2 months. How much independence do I give him? do I relax on my phone in rules, like he needs to call me when he arrives where he is going and then needs to check in throughout the event so I know that he is ok? What is an appropriate curfew? I honestly do not remember what my curfew was when I was his age. I thought that as he grew up things would get easier but they definitely feel more complicated.
I know that my fears have gotten stronger as he has gotten older, I am worried all the time that he is out on his own with friends. I know that he is growing up but I still think he needs to check in and I need to know what is going on in his life so that I could help if needed but more importantly so I am not thrown by surprise when / if something happens.
whiplash is so real at this age.
