Well I didn't even consider talking to his father about this. Tonight we were sitting at the place to get the piercing and his dad calls. Well my child lies about where we are and I tell him not to lie. So now his father is livid that I didn't "consult him" bc "he is still the father." I was trying not to laugh directly at him and to not cause a scene at the place so I didn't really say anything back and then the ex hung up on me. I couldn't believe he did that so I called him back and asked if he really hung up on me. He did and pointed out that I would have been pissed if my child came home from his place with a major change. This is true and he has a point.
However the more I think about it the more pissed I get. Why should I consult with him? Where has he been the last 6 almost 7 years? Our custody agreement states that I get final say in all decisions so again I ask why should I consult with him? I really don't think ears pierced is all that big of a deal. If the kid doesn' t like it he can take the earrings out and the holes can close and the childs hair covers his ears most of the time so it wouldn't even be visible. Why does it matter?
Did the ex consider his son when he moved in with his mistress and didn't take any of the childs stuff to his apartment, didn't create a room for him at his no place, then when he decided it would be better to not see his son? Did he consider his son when he met a woman 4 states away online and moved there to be with her and three kids? Did he think of his son when that marriage imploded and he moved across country to live with his father? So why should I consider his feelings/opinions when he hasn't shown interest before?
I am sure I have not heard the last of this. It will be an interesting weekend. The ex is pissed and now the child is pissed bc his dad is upset and he doesn't have his ears pierced since I don't look old enough to be his mother I have to supply the place his birth certificate and my id.
